Ayanda Borotho Opens Up On Everyday Abuses On Women And Children

Ayanda Borotho has taken to her social media to share the importance of stopping the abuse of women and children not only at this time of the year, but on every day.

Ayanda revealed how she lost a dear friend to this domestic violence as she was trying to leave the marriage. According to her, this dear friend of hers, suffered emotional, physical and financial abuses in the hands of her husband.

She said her friend’s husband drove into an oncoming traffic with 3 of their child.

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In the process, the man died, his wife and their 3-year-old last born leaving two of their other kids who survived the accident.

All this has driven Ayanda to speak up on the abuses and according to her, everyday should be 16 days Days of Activism for No Violence against Women and Children campaign.

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“About a month ago, I lost a dear friend who was trying to leave a marriage that was abusive emotionally, physically and financially. The husband drove onto oncoming traffic with 3 of their children killing himself, her and their 3 year old last born in a head on collision. The 2 other children survived, including those who were not with them that day. Her husband had been threatening to destroy/ kill her for some time. She was in the process of leaving but because we never really believe that someone who says they love us can actually really kill us, we stay, try, help, even allowing them access into our space after we leave. That was his chance. And he took it.
The trauma of it all sent me straight into a dark hole. I am still processing how our men, husbands, brothers, sons, fathers…who are meant to protect us end up being the very people who bury us.

I have seen the toxicity of male privilege around me for as long as I can recall. When I wrote my book Unbecoming To Become, it was an attempt to unpack that patriachy is a systematic narrative manufactured at birth, nurtured through socialisation and conditioning as we grow, protected and perpetuated (even by women), once we are trusted with it. GBV (a term I detest passionately because it seeks to undermine the severity of the issue at hand which is the “systematic killing of vulnerable children and women), is only but a manifestation of the toxic patriachy we have been conditioned to normalise and embrace as part of our reality.
In the next few days, I will unpack certain themes from my book Unbecoming To Become to help us understand how we have become such a society.

In honour of the women and children who were “violated” and “killed” by the men they loved.

To the deceased…may your blood speak for you and the rest of us.
To those who survived…may find the light that was buried to help you live fearlessly.
To the trapped…it’s not impossible to start over. I beg you to choose YOU.
To the voiceless…we will be your voice until you find the courage to unchain yours.

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